I think getting to a certain age you start to feel as though you might be getting left behind.
You see friends getting engaged (5 over a 12 month period to be exact) whilst you’re in the midst of a breakup (to someone you’d been with for twice as long as most of those relationships who have just gotten engaged none the less).
You see friends buying houses (2 within a year) and you start hearing the word babies mentioned more often (please slow down on that word friends!).
You see friends travelling to exotic places (ok I might be THAT friend in this instance).
This was even more apparent at a hens night for one of those friends who got engaged, where I was one of the youngest in the group. Apparently getting engaged, married and having babies are all some of these girl’s think about. The clock is ticking apparently.
I was talking to a friend about this just this week as life was handing her a few events such as the above and I could tell it was starting to get her down.
My advice to her was, Live your own life. Live life on your terms and in your time. With a side note that was something along the lines of; Enjoy the fact you don’t have a huge mortgage or a screaming child 😉
Whilst those are all things I want one day I don’t think stressing about when and how it’s going to happen does anybody any favours. Enjoy life, live in the moment whilst preparing for the future (financially at least), laugh often, love always and have a good time!
What do you think?
Isn’t there some saying about not letting comparison steal your joy? I think when we don’t compare ourselves to others constantly, we can see what there is to appreciate about our own lives.
Also, we never know what’s really going on behind closed doors. Things might look pretty and full of momentum from the outside, but everyone has struggles and challenges we aren’t fully aware of.
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Interesting post – mainly because I am 100% on the “stressing about when and how it will happen” side right now. Despite all the ‘don’t compare’, ‘it’ll happen when it happens’ thoughts which MEAN WELL…for me, the reality is, I feel out of control of certain things in my life. I want security, I want committment and I want to know that (even if its not happening now) it will be happening soon, in the future. Once I have been reassured of that, then I can relax a bit. But until then…I stress and worry and secretly plan anyway! Haha!