[Disclaimer -I wrote this post yesterday then had a heated discussion with the ex in question about the blog post, I was angry he had read it, he was angry I had said some of the things I said as anyone can read it. I then took the post down out of anger, after sleeping on it I have decided this is my little space in the blogosphere and I am entitled to say what I want/need to say so the post is staying.]
A few weeks ago I wrote about a decision I had made that would be the single hardest thing I would’ve ever done in my life. The past few weeks have been actioning that decision and coming to grips with it.
I have broken up with the boyfriend after being together just over 8 years as I didn’t feel it was working. It feels weird writing that down, but I do feel I have made the right decision. I guess it ultimately came down to trusting my gut instinct and that was telling me this needed to happen.
I don’t completely understand it nor can I work out how to get the words out to describe why/how I came to this decision. A huge contributing factor is the lack of communication we had for a reasonable chunk of the relationship and the fact that we didn’t spend quality time together. While these are not the things that ultimately ended the relationship I think they are huge factors that lead to me falling out of love.
I truly respect and care for him and while I know he is hurting I think in the long run he will realise that we are better off as friends – which I truly do hope we can be down the track as it would be pretty devastating to loose a friend that knows you that well.
All in all it comes down to not wanting to regret anything, whilst the decision does still hurt even though I was the one that made it, I don’t regret it at all and think this is the right thing to do.
On a random note he has since quit his job and is moving (maybe he is going to trial it) to Malaysia! Can you say big shock since he wasn’t even keen on Singapore (Where they speak english!) until after I dragged him there. The feeling I had when he told me about this made me realise I had made the right decision. I wish him all the best and hope he can stick through the hard times over there and come out stronger than ever.
I’ve realised a breakup makes you know who your true friends are though that’s for sure! Onwards and Upwards lovelies 🙂
That’s awesome that he’s decided to stretch himself by going to Malaysia – it really does show that it was the best thing for both of you 🙂
Yep I wish him all the best and hope he get’s what he wants out of the trip 🙂
I’m sad that you had to have a heated discussion over this post – and truly hope that one day he understands that this is your area to share your thoughts and feelings, and its also a form of support. My blog is that for me, and I know my other half doesn’t really get that. It’s really got nothing to do with him (and I mean that in a “you aren’t trying to put him down” way) – I hope he understands that.
It’s really great to hear that both of you are making steps in your new futures, separate from each other. It can’t be easy, especially after 8 years together! But it sounds like the right decision – for both of you.
Stay strong, we are here to support you xx
Thank you hun.
Everything you said is exactly how I feel, hopefully I got that across to him in the end. xx